I have a high energy child. There I said it. When I hear The Ramones song “I Want to be Sedated” I think of her.
Now I know that most kids have a lot of energy but I have to say that my kids seems to have been given an extra shot of whatever kids get. I have often wondered what her teachers do to keep her in her seat at school all day.
Do they know something I don’t?
And yes, you judgey moms, I do have her in a lot of activities. There’s a good reason for that. She needs them. And frankly, so do I.
Look, every kid is different. Some kids are okay with less activity. Some kids are okay with more activity. They are all different. That’s what makes them so great. Unique. Interesting.
So I’m going to keep letting her be as active as she likes. Well, within our budget that is.
The Best Thing in Life is knowing your own child and allowing them to be that child.
We come into this world woefully unqualified for what life has to throw at us. It’s not our fault. It’s just the way it happens.
But never have I felt so ridiculously unqualified as I have as a parent.
People have been doing this for how many years? And yet……nobody has put together a comprehensive ” how to” guide. Yes, many have written self help books on parenting and I have read them all (mostly) but none of them have really resonated with me as being authentic.
I feel like at this point in my life I should have enough life experience to be able to handle this. So how do I take my experiences and the knowledge that I have gained from them and pass it on to my kids in a relevant manner?
This is not going to be a post with a smart, well written, Best Things in Life ending. This is a real question.
How do I take my life experiences and pass them on to my kids in a meaningful, educational way that will benefit them? Without driving them crazy.
I feel a bit like the younger sister who has gone to a party with an older sister and suddenly realized that things have gotten out of control.
When we decided to go to the party we knew that it might get a bit crazy. We were nervous but optimistic that everything would turn out all right. You hear things but never really know how these things are going to go down.
So now the party is in full swing and my sister is getting scared. There’s a guy my sister met who keeps telling her what to do and when she doesn’t do it he gets angry at her. She’s looking around at me and her friends hoping that somebody is going to step in and help.
The problem is that there really isn’t much we can do. We can make suggestions and give advice. We can be sympathetic and comforting. We can tell the guy to stop, behave himself and act like a gentleman.
Ultimately though, my sister has to be the one to stand up and make herself heard and tell this guy that he can’t treat her that way. It’s the only way to make it stop.
I love my sister and our relationship has always been close. If I could, I would step in and make the guy go away.
A few years ago I read Gretchen Rubin’s book The Happiness Project.
I enjoyed it immensely and still go back and re-read sections when I need a reminder on how to handle certain situations in life. It is truly the only “self help” book I have ever finished.
Today I found myself back on her web page and taking her quiz to determine what type of person I am when it comes to handling inner and external expectations. Things like work deadlines, New Years resolutions, life altering decisions.
Try it yourself here.
The four categories, or types, are Upholder, Questioner, Rebel and Obliger. She has developed a quick quiz to help you determine which category you fall into. It was quite interesting. The questions seemed a bit random but the results were bang on for me.
I am a questioner. I have a tendency to question everything before I will move ahead with a project or decision.
The fact that I even took the quiz proves that I needed to know what type I was before I could move on with my day.